Steps to Freedom

In my face book profile I list several books as favorites. One of those is “Total Forgiveness” by R.T. Kendall. It is a book that should be read by every person . Near the end of that book he lists ten steps to freedom. I find that I need these ten steps at the top of my mind to help others and to remind myself of the dangers of unforgiveness. Here are the ten:

Stop excusing, pardoning or rationalizing

Pinpoint the actions that have hurt you

Spend time thinking of ways in which your life would be more satisfying if you could let go of your grievances

Try replacing angry thoughts about the “badness” of the perpetrator with thoughts about how the offender is also a human being who is vulnerable to harm

Identify with the offenders probable state of mind. Understand the perpetrator’s history while not condoning their actions

Spend some time developing greater compassion toward the perpetrator

Become more aware that you have needed other people’s forgiveness in the past

Make a heartfelt resolution not to pass on your own pain

Spend time appreciating the sense of purpose and direction that comes after steps 1-8

Enjoy the sense of emotional relief that comes when the burden of a grudge has melted away. Enjoy also the feeling of goodwill and mercy you have shown

I like this quote from Joni Eareckson Tada:

“I am a Christian not because of what it does for me but because it is true”